Relationship is the only thing that we have

Ahhh I see what you did there lol BUT based on that, then wouldn't that make the opposite of everything nothing rather than the opposite of its perceivable opposite when present? Such as white/black instead of white - no white  -- How is it one gets to choose which is the opposite? 

soft/hard opposed to soft/ no softness (which might not be true if something was pliable rather than hard.)

up/down opposed to up/no up 

(This confuses me a bit)